This world is a giant staircase, and with every lesson we are able to take the next step.
There are countless moments in one's life where taking the next step to where they are meant to be at that time is questioned.
We wake up to find ourselves in a situation which seems to be swallowing our sanity and peace, and we fight our way through that battle to the more prosperous outcome in order to take back that understanding of ourselves and that peace of mind.
What we often ignore is the fact that in order to gain anymore wisdom and life we need to keep taking those steps, even when we wake to find our reality has shifted.
In my eyes, the key to life is falling nine times and getting back up ten. Our devotion and determination to happiness, love and success are tested by the universe. Why? In order to test the very lengths you will go to achieve what you desire or believe you need. Hardly ever are we handed what we truly need or want in life on a silver plate- the teaching of life is to push our limits, to make us say "I can't handle this!" but in the end always get through raising your bar of what you can withstand and fight for.
I know many people who observe life on one step, whilst peeking over to other's staircases wishing they were that successful, that in love, that happy etc. What they are oblivious to is the fact that all they are looking for lies ahead of them, on the very next step.
The real test however is not seeing if you will take that step, but seeing what you will go through and what you will gain in the time you are there. This means enduring through the good and bad of what that step has in store for you.
A lot of people simply want to run up the stairs to the stage they know they will be happy, this is clearly not the right approach to take. This approach on life can lead to the sudden realization that you are not ready for what you have rushed into, or that you are not prepared or worse you realise you never truly wanted it in the first place. By taking time to slowly and cautiously step onto the next stage of life you are allowing your mind and soul to establish what lessons will be awaiting you there. You gain that understanding and wisdom and from that you are now stronger to take the next step. It is not about racing to the one you see best, it is about patiently working your way up and uncovering more of what you are reaching slowly. EVERY step you take lovely or terrible is vital in your personal self-growth. There is no stage in life better than the other as each is like humans- individual and offering new lessons, understanding and personalities.
The opposite of racing to the desired step and ignoring the steps one needs to reach their dream is being too afraid to step any further. I believe fear is the biggest poison in ourselves. I myself are very fearful about a lot things and it kills me to think about all I can achieve if I murdered the unnecessary fear within. We cling onto fear, because for most of that is all we have known. We evaluate past occurrences where hope dominated but fear proved to be right. Most of us pour fear into every aspect of our life because our mind is telling us that fear will win over hope once again.
In my learning and growing however, I have come to the conclusion that fear is the blanket we cling to for security, but hope is what will open doors for us to expand that security and deliver what we really deserve in life. Although sometimes we need time to be wrapped in the blanket of fear and doubt, we also need to get out of bed, open the doors hope has made and leave that blanket alone to find better stronger securities to carry us through life.
People who have hope in fear and fear in hope, should really start looking at what they are truly scared of, and challenging those fears with the fact that we are survivors, but we cannot survive and gain victory from living in a cave of fear. Rather than having fear in hope, we should instead focus on having hope in hope. We must open ourselves to the positive 'What if's' and challenge life like it challenges us.
For those living on the same steps, yet dreaming of what could lie ahead your patch of fear ask yourself this- is being fearful bringing you anything beneficial? Or have you grown into a place where fear is just breeding more fear? If so, you need to un chain the fear you have cuffed yourself with, and trust that you will be okay regardless of the millions insecurities you may have about yourself or your world.
This realisation helped me when I was suffering from anxiety and injecting that into my relationship. All I ever wanted was someone to care and protect me and completely love me for me. When I reached that step after fighting many battles and learning a lot through the previous steps in my life, fear decided to unleash. I began panicing about being left, being cheated on, not being good enough you name it and I would have thought about it. My mind was trapped into the memory of me previously going through these things, that I was tainting the sweetness I now held with the fear I had given birth to in previous relationships. When I learnt that my 'What if's' weren't benefiting my life, and that fear was a manipulative poison trying to kill my hard earned happiness, I began to see that this fear I now possessed was an old lesson on a new step. It was one I had needed to learn years ago.
I have still not fully mastered rising up above it, with each step, comes more steps. I am aware that slowly my fear is shrinking, that I am looking upon life with eyes filled with hope and positivity, rather than fear. I am opening more and more doors hope and self-love has created for me. When my fear is overcome I can take the next step. I hope fearful people out there will take this step with me.
This world is a giant staircase, and with each step new ones are created. Its not about which one we take, its about what we gain on that step and what we can carry from it to the next one.
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